You finished it in your brain. You did. I don’t even need to insert the last, four letter word that starts with h and ends with e. Two letters left…would you like to buy a vowel?
Haters Gonna Hate.
I looked it up on Google just to see what popped up. The definition of #hgh is “a catchphrase used to indicate a disregard for hostile remarks addressed towards the speaker.” Basically, it’s retaliation for judgmentalism. Wear it as a t-shirt or belt or paste it on your rear bumper or tag it to every facebook post. Whatever way you flaunt it, at the core it means “don’t judge me.”
And consequently, if you do judge me, you hate me.
That’s what the culture says about judgmentalism. But there’s another catchphrase that runs around in more spiritual circles: “Only God can judge me.”
Is that true? Or is just an excuse to do whatever you want and have everybody zip the lip and throw away the key?
If we are going to bring God into something, we had better make sure we know what He actually thinks about it. That’s while I will be using Bible verses in this discussion–because I believe His opinion is the most important of all. Don’t like that? Well haters gonna….
Just kidding. 😉
I plan for Part 1 to be about how WE judge others and evidence for why we shouldn’t do that, and then turn that on it’s head in Part 2 and talk about what happens and what to do when other people judge YOU.
It rhymes. Slow applause…
Let’s go…topic of the week: Judging Others. Part One.
#1. People will Judge you.
The topic of judging others is in the Bible, and that means that humans have a problem of it. We judge other people by the clothes they wear, the car they drive, the significant other they have, where they hang, and their lingo. We judge them for what they do, what they don’t do, and what we think they might do.
James 2:2-4 says, “For if a man wearing a gold ring and fine clothing comes into your assembly, and a poor man in shabby clothing also comes in, and if you pay attention to the one who wears the fine clothing and say, ‘You sit here in a good place,’ while you say to the poor man, ‘You stand over there,’ or ‘Sit down at my feet,’ have you not then made distinctions among yourselves and become judges with evil thoughts?”
God not only reminds us THAT we judge others, but even gives a vivid description of HOW we judge them.
#2. We shouldn’t be judging people.
We shouldn’t be writing people off like the things they journal about and think about in bed are out in broad daylight. You think you know what’s going on with a person…or what really happened in a situation? You may know alot, but you’ll never know everything. Don’t act like you do.
In the same way, maybe you’re on the receiving end of the judgment. Maybe you just wore a certain outfit, or got a tattoo, or went to a side of town, or said hi to that boy, or had coffee with that girl. And maybe alot of stuff got stashed between the lines, and now the script is reading something that never actually happened. Or maybe you did do something that hurt other people, and they are judging you without understanding your intentions. It’s very hurtful. I know. Boy, do I know.
That’s why we are not supposed to judge. We don’t know everything. Or sometimes anything. And when we act like we do, it hurts people.
Matthew 7:1-2 “Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you.”
#3. We shouldn’t judge because we only see things from the outside.
Following from the example above, it’s pretty clear we don’t look past surface-level before making a judgment.
Even though that Zimbio quiz said your superpower should be “mind-reading,” you can never really know what other people are thinking. What their intentions or motivations are. Why they really said or did that. They can tell you what they meant. But you can’t see their mind so you judge what you can see–their clothes, mannerisms, and physical appearance. I mean, just sit on a bench in your community mall and watch people. You’ll stereotype them one by one without ever beating an eyelash: “She’s a cheater. He’s a thug. She’s a druggie. He’s a player.” Maybe you’ve done it before. I have.
Why? The answer:
1 Samuel 16:7b “For the LORD sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the LORD looks on the heart.
#4. We shouldn’t judge because we do the same things others do.
Ok. So it’s pretty clear that we only see people from the outside, so we shouldn’t judge them. But we also shouldn’t condemn them because we are also human.
Romans 2:1 “Therefore you have no excuse, O man, every one of you who judges. For in passing judgment on another you condemn yourself, because you, the judge, practice the very same things.”
Hypocrisy. This goes hand in hand with the idea of taking the log out of your own eye first. It’s very easy to pass judgment on someone else (Matthew 7) if our eyes are blind to our own faults.
#5. We shouldn’t judge because we don’t know what people really deserve.
Remember that scene in “The Fellowship of the Ring” where Frodo is raving about how Bilbo should have killed Gollum when he had the chance? That would seem to be proper judgment for the slimy creature’s crimes.
But Gandalf thinks differently, and his bushy eyebrows go up a little: “Pity? It was pity that stayed Bilbo’s hand. Many that live deserve death. Some that die deserve life. Can you give it to them, Frodo? Do not be too eager to deal out death in judgment. Even the very wise cannot see all ends. My heart tells me that Gollum has some part to play yet, for good or ill before this is over. The pity of Bilbo may rule the fate of many.”
Why should we not deal out judgment? Because we don’t know what people TRULY deserve. Death or life? Prison? Parole? Exile? Hell? Heaven?
People, it’s hard not to judge, even though there are plenty of reasons why we shouldn’t. I know. I KNOW. It’s especially hard when someone has wounded you deeply, or injured someone you love. Sometimes it feels impossible to forgive. To not cast judgment.
I think I know what the people who have pierced my heart should get in return for the pain they caused, and when they look they they’re not getting it, I get mad. “God, what is this??? You know what they did!!! They deserve Xyz!!!” But I gotta remember: “Am I sure I want to condemn that person, when I can’t see beyond their skin, when I am just like them, when I don’t know what they deserve? Would I like someone that I’ve HURT to come up with MY judgment?”
Eeeeehhhh. Burn. Ouch.
#6. We shouldn’t judge because we don’t want to eat our own sentence.
Luke 6:37 “Judge not, and you will not be judged; condemn not, and you will not be condemned; forgive, and you will be forgiven; give, and it will be given to you. Good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, will be put into your lap. For with the measure you use it will be measured back to you.”
The consequence of judging others is that we are promised the same sentence. Condemn them, pound the gavel, and watch them be dragged off to prison, and then take your earnings and go find yourself a lawyer. Cause you’re next.
#7. We shouldn’t judge because we AREN’T the judge.
So maybe those people were right. Cause it’s pretty accurate that “only God can judge me.”
Deuteronomy 32:35. “Vengeance is mine, and recompense, for the time when their foot shall slip; for the day of their calamity is at hand, and their doom comes swiftly.’”
Romans 2:6a: “He will render to each one according to his works…”
It sounds pretty clear. God is the Judge, the only one with the authority to deal out a sentence, to give rewards, or to issue in punishment. Because He is all-wise, sees the heart, knows the whole story, is not a hypocrite, and knows what we deserve, He is the only One who can judge, and judge rightly.
Only God can judge you.